There are always 3 sides to every story. Their side, your side and the truth. And all 3 can be right.
Take the example of someone holding up a coin. I see the heads. That is exactly what I see through my eyes and what I believe. The person the other side of the coin sees tails. That is exactly what they see through their eyes and what they believe.
The truth is that it is a coin and both are right.
You can spend time arguing about who is right and who is wrong. You can waste energy in the debate, try to convince them otherwise, get others involved, coerce them in to taking sides. You can end up getting frustrated and angry. Such a waste of time, blame damaging relationships and friendships. Failure to forgive only hurting yourself.
In such scenarios, I am learning to move on. To avoid the drama. To try to not let the other person’s feelings or perceptions of me and my view make me feel inferior, paranoid and even question my belief. I remind myself that as long as I know I have done everything with good intent and a kind and loving heart, then if someone has a differing opinion to me, there is not much I can do about it. Sometimes, the only answer is to let it go, give it time for the dust to settle over the faces of the two sides of the story, so that just an old coin is left and the truth can be seen from both sides.
To be able to move on from the coin, it took me a good session at bootcamp, laughing with some fun new friends, it took me a good 15 minutes of mindfulness on my favourite sunny spot to breathe out the negativity, a good 30 minute dog walk in the sunshine to remind myself of all the good things I have going on my life… Then I made a conscious decision to look and see all the shiny new pennies (if we are on the topic of coins), rather than the bad penny.
By doing so, I had a lovely rest of the day.
The best bits from the car – hearing about Tom’s science lesson with lemonade and raisins! And seeing Willy proudly showing me his library monitor badge, hearing what he has to do to keep the library in order…. And with this new found love of books, he wants to read! Halleluiah!