A wonderfully compassionate friend sent me a photo of a quote from the magazine she was reading and it sent my thought process off on a new tangent, particularly related to the way I was feeling and contemplating the end of a year and the start of another.
“We think that the point is to pass the test or overcome the problem but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It is just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen, room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.”
Typically, at this time of year I like to reflect on the year, review the goals and plans I set in motion at the start of the year and reset and refocus for the year ahead. For many years this has been an uplifting experience, goals being met, plans ‘coming together’ but for the last few, as much as I have wanted to draw pleasure on the positives, there have been elements of frustration as events outside my control have meant plans have ‘fallen apart’.
Given my latest unshackling and processing life by ‘letting go’, I have this year let go of my extensive goal setting for life, love, career, finances, health and family.
And instead, I have taken on a mission. A mission I found inside my Book of Joy.
MISSION: Choose ONE SINGLE WORD that describes what you’d like to work on in 2017.
The idea is to select a concept to keep in mind as you navigate the year ahead. A single North Star for your journey.
(By the way, do yourself a favor and choose a word you’re prepared to take on. If it’s not the right year for you to do something, don’t set yourself up for disappointment.)
It is no surprise that I chose the word for my north star as ‘happiness’.
Rather than setting SMART (specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, timebound) goals, I am setting HAPPY goals. In each of the slices of the pie of life, my goal is happiness. What will make me feel and be happy on that day, in that moment?
As I sit here with my feet up, my pj’s on, my belly full, with my family around me, I can reflect on a year of personal plans and a private world that ‘fell apart’ more than once and be proud that I dusted myself off, drew on inner peace, core strength and centred my ‘coming together’ on principles of love, joy, abundance and the pursuit of happiness.
Tomorrow may be the start of a new year, but it is also the start of a new month and as every day, a new day. A new day to find happiness.